Remembering For Good: The Workbook
In the modern Western world, we talk about and respond to loss and grief as though it’s an illness, a sign of brokenness. The dominant idea is that we need to pursue “closure,” “let go” and “move on.” We don’t have many rituals or practices for grieving and remembering “in community” and it’s common for people who’ve experienced the loss of a loved one to feel incredibly alone and ashamed in their grief, and for the people around them to feel incredibly disempowered, helpless and nervous about interacting with the grieving person. Grieving alone is often the biggest cause of chronic or complicated grief that leads to multiple emotional, cognitive, physical and social challenges that make life even harder.
If this traditional model of grieving doesn’t fit for you… if you’ve struggled with feeling alienated, judged or shamed when you’re grieving… if you feel like loss has closed your heart and dulled your life and you’re looking for a way to feel connection, belonging, meaning, peace and joy again… if you want to feel alive and resilient again, then I wrote this book for you.
In this book you’ll learn:
- Why the traditional Western model of grieving and seeking “closure” doesn’t fit for many people, and what the potential dangers of this approach are (this is very important for you to consider if you’re a carer/ counselor for someone who’s grieving!).
- Well-known common emotional, cognitive and physical reactions to loss and grief, as well as the many surprising emotional reactions that many people experience while they’re grieving, and which aren’t often recognized or talked about.
- The differences between “grieving,” “ruminating” and “remembering,” and what it means to “live wholeheartedly.”
- 3 Common myths about the grief process, and what the latest research is showing us is the actual truth when it comes to grieving.
- How and why “remembering” the people you’ve loved who’ve died can be good for you, good for your friends and family and good for the world at large.
- The one thing that a great number of studies show makes the biggest difference in protecting us from developing complicated grief symptoms or trauma responses, and which makes the biggest difference in helping us to recover and return to resilience and wholeheartedness after trauma and loss.
This is a workbook. Throughout the book there are self-coaching questions to guide you to new, more liberating perspectives that will allow you to live more wholeheartedly and find some of the peace, love, belonging, meaning and joy that you’re wanting.
For every copy you purchase, I’ll donate another copy in remembrance
When you purchase your copy of Remembering For Good, I’ll give another copy to a public organization (hospitals, hospices, medical centres, etc) or non-profit that works with bereaved people. After you complete your purchase you’ll be directed to a form where you can enter your name (or choose to remain anonymous), along with the name of someone you love in whose memory you’d like to donate a copy of the book. I’ll add a remembrance sticker to the front of the book that I donate and anyone who reads this book will know that it was donated by you, in remembrance of your loved one. Here’s what the remembrance sticker will look like:
The Remembering For Good Grief Workbook is $15 each and available as a full-color PDF download that you can either read on your computer or print out so that you can write on it.
P.S.Every so often I send out Remembrance eLetters that include articles about grieving, self-coaching tips and small pieces of inspiration through art, poems and music. If you’d like to receive these, sign up by filling in your details below: