“A double bind is an emotionally distressing dilemma in communication in which an individual (or group) receives two or more conflicting messages, in which one message negates the other. This creates a situation in which a successful response to one message results in a failed response to the other (and vice versa), so that the person will be…
Category Archives: Grieving In Community
Ubuntu: Creating A Wholehearted Life After Loss
Last month I had the privilege of speaking to over 300 brilliant coaches at the Martha Beck Coaches’ Summit in Phoenix. My presentation slot was just 8 minutes long, so with all that I’ve learned in my past 10 years since qualifying as a Social Worker, and especially in the past 2 years through my…
Who’s The Biggest Loser?
There’s a really interesting article at Psychology Today about the way that we look at each other’s lives and compare our grief. My thoughts… hierarchies of loss are inaccurate inventions Because of the work I do, I end up having a lot of conversations with people about loss and grief. I guess they intuitively sense that…
When Grief Turns Your Family And Social World Upside Down
I’ve had a few emails recently from people who are struggling with the social repercussions of tragedy and loss. They’re shocked to find that, on top of the pain of the child or parent or spouse they lost, their whole social world has been turned upside down. People that they used to feel close to…
One Year On: “Full of Suffering And Full Of Overcoming”
Today is the first anniversary of the day that we met and said goodbye to our daughter, Juggernaut. Andy and I have headed out to the Rocky Mountains for the weekend to breathe in the mountain air, bond, rest, reflect and remember her. It’s an important day to us, but what do you do on…
How To Negotiate Changed or Difficult Relationships After Loss
As I navigate my own grief recovery journey, I’m faced with the challenge of re-negotiating my social identity. We’ve been changed by the events of the past 9 months and this has had a ripple-effect on all our relationships. For the most part it’s brought us closer to our friends and family, but in some…
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Cath walks, makes art, raises funds for the Kidney Foundation, supports bereaved people to live wholeheartedly after loss, tends to her small urban garden, writes, coordinates volunteers at MISS Foundation and enjoys having compassionate conversations with new and old friends. Cath is an experienced Social Worker, Neuro-linguistic Psychology Master Practitioner and Martha Beck Life Coach.
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