Category Archives: Cath’s Personal Reflections

Return To Zero – Hollywood film, breaking the silence about stillbirth

Last year I was really pleased to connect with Sean Hanish, Director of the recently released independent film, Return To Zero. This is the first Hollywood film (starring Minnie Driver and Paul Adelstein) where the core storyline is about stillbirth. I’ve been really excited about the role that a film like this could play in helping to address shame and open up the conversation about stillbirth and child death in general.

This is a brave conversation for bereaved families and for those who’ve never experienced the death of a child, and Sean was concerned to offer support and leadership to help people to process the film, as well as their own unique story of loss, and to ensure that the conversation that the film opened up would go in the direction of togetherness, resilience, and hope. So I was honoured to take up the opportunity to help by creating a journal and discussion guide to accompany the film.

Download the free discussion guide

The guide can be used individually, as a personal reflective journal, or it can work well to take it to work through with a grief counsellor. I think there can be a lot of benefit in using it to facilitate discussions in grief support groups, and I love the idea of using it to support discussions in educational programs for helping professionals who support bereaved families.

After the world premier of the film on Lifetime TV on Saturday evening, I hopped online to discuss the movie and the film discussion guide with Carrie Fisher-Pascaul, Carlymarie, and Dr Karla Lacampo (the real doctor who helped Sean and his wife when their baby, Norbert, was stillborn). If you’re nervous about watching the film, watch this interview first, because we talk about ways to approach watching the film so that it’s helpful and healing, and I think there are quite a few useful perspectives shared in the interview, about how to navigate the very difficult grief journey. (Note that the interview only starts 10 or so minutes into the recording, so scroll ahead to that.)

The film is now available for pre-order, if you missed it on Lifetime TV this weekend.

Pre-order the Return To Zero DVD

And if you’re looking for some community discussion about the film, there are some useful discussions happening at the Return To Zero Facebook page.

Some Thoughts on Love And Grief

Love is both the reason for grief and the salve to soothe grief. What a smart design! When we open to love, we can’t avoid grief, but we also can’t avoid healing and transformation and the gentle softening of our grief into more love. Grief isn’t a toxin that needs to be purged out ofContinue Reading

Finding The Serendipity In Life’s Losses & New Challenges

This week I’ve painted another stone tile to add to my wholehearted living bowl. If you missed the first post about this creative practice, you can read about how and why I’m doing this creative exercise over here. The wholehearted word that I’m adding this week (“Serendipity”) is actually a word I’m going to carryContinue Reading

A Warm Cup Of Sani-tea

I created this collage and wrote the notes for it on 17 January 2011. Here’s what I wrote in my journal about the collage: I know deep down that now is a time of waiting. I can squirm and shout and try to force things, but nothing is happening in a hurry. I have toContinue Reading

One Year On: “Full of Suffering And Full Of Overcoming”

Today is the first anniversary of the day that we met and said goodbye to our daughter, Juggernaut. Andy and I have headed out to the Rocky Mountains for the weekend to breathe in the mountain air, bond, rest, reflect and remember her. It’s an important day to us, but what do you do onContinue Reading

Planting Happy Seeds

A big shift in my healing came when I decided to plant happy seeds – literally and metaphorically. Sadness, fear and hope all mixed up together. It was a big leap of faith for me at the time… It helped facilitate some more grieving and acknowledgment of my fears. I cried as I planted them,Continue Reading

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